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Intimacy Of Reinforcement

Maven Research #79: Intimacy Of Reinforcement.

How to Train Your Brain to Hate Your Own Success (A Recipe for Joyful Sabotage)

Let’s be honest—you’re already good at this. Every time you finally nail that presentation, land the promotion, or even just enjoy a quiet evening without existential dread, your brain immediately starts plotting its own downfall. It’s not paranoia; it’s strategic pessimism. Your mind is a master chef of self-sabotage, and today, we’re serving up the Intimacy of Reinforcement—a dish so delicious, you’ll be surprised it’s not actually a metaphor for your life.

This isn’t therapy. It’s culinary art. A recipe for ensuring that every victory feels like a setup for disaster, because nothing says “I’ve arrived” like immediately preparing for the fall. Whether you’re a chronic overachiever, a romantic who’s convinced love is a scam, or just someone who enjoys the thrill of the almost, this guide is for you. Welcome to the kitchen of your own misery—where the oven is always on, and the timer is set for regret.

The Intimacy of Reinforcement

Yields: A lifetime of “almosts,” a collection of half-finished dreams, and the satisfying crunch of your own self-worth.

Ingredients:

  • 1 cup of unearned cynicism (store-bought, but works)
  • Âœ tsp of existential dread (freshly ground, optional but recommended)
  • 1 large ego (whole, unpeeled)
  • 2 tbsp of “what if?” syndrome (shake well before use)
  • A pinch of “I told you so” (for garnish)
  • 1 lifetime supply of “but what if it doesn’t last?” (non-perishable)
  • Optional: A side of “I deserve better” (serve cold)

Instructions:

  1. Preheat your brain to “self-loathing” (350°F or “I’m not good enough”). Pro tip: If your oven only goes up to “I’m doomed,” that’s fine. We’re not making soufflĂ©s here.

  2. Mix the unearned cynicism into your success.

    • Example: You just got a raise. Immediately start listing every way this company will screw you over. (Bonus points if you imagine them in a bad wig.)
    • Commentary: This is where the magic happens. Your brain loves a good “I knew it” narrative, and this is how you feed it.

  3. Add the “what if?” syndrome.

    • Example: You’re on a date that’s going well. Your brain pipes up: “What if they’re hiding a criminal record? What if they’re secretly a robot?”
    • Commentary: This is your brain’s way of saying, “Let’s not get too comfortable. Comfort is the enemy.”

  4. Whisk in the existential dread.

    • Example: You’ve been promoted. Now your brain starts calculating how long until you’re fired. (Spoiler: It’s always 6 months.)
    • Commentary: Dread is like a good marinade—it makes everything taste better (or worse, depending on your perspective).

  5. Garnish with “I told you so.”

    • Example: You finally save up for that vacation. Your brain whispers, “Just wait until something goes wrong.” (Pro tip: It always does.)
    • Commentary: This is the cherry on top. The universe loves a good “I’m right” moment.

  6. Serve immediately with a side of “I deserve better.”

    • Example: You achieve a personal goal. Your brain serves up: “But not enough. Not yet.”
    • Commentary: This is the ultimate in self-sabotage. Congratulations, you’ve just trained yourself to hate your own progress.

  7. Let it sit overnight (or until the next failure).

    • Example: You start a new relationship. Your brain spends the night cataloging flaws like a detective in a noir movie.
    • Commentary: This is the “resting phase.” Your brain is just getting warmed up for round two.

Note from the Chef:

“This recipe is best enjoyed with a side of ‘I’m not sure why I’m doing this to myself.’ Serve with a glass of wine (or denial). If the dish tastes too bitter, just remember: at least you’re not eating a salad. Also, no refunds. The universe doesn’t do exchanges.”

Conclusion:

So there you have it—the Intimacy of Reinforcement, served up with a side of “why do I do this to myself?” Life isn’t a soufflĂ©; it’s a soufflĂ© you’re convinced will collapse at any moment. And honestly? The suspense is half the fun. You’re not just training your brain to hate success—you’re making sure every victory comes with a built-in expiration date. Because nothing says “I’m thriving” like immediately preparing for the fall.

Welcome to the club. The membership fee is eternal dissatisfaction, and the perks include a lifetime supply of “I told you so.” Enjoy your meal.